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What Would Happen If You Stopped Working So Hard?

30 Jun

Which law on this planet says that you have to work hard?Origami cranes

I have to admit I am a bit of an underachiever. I would rather have a good time and play now rather than work my butt off to break a sweat to attain some level of whatever everyone else is striving for. Overall, I look back on my life so far, and I have to say I have been pretty lucky, blessed, or charmed. Call it what you want, but things in general have come pretty easy to me. Despite what “they” say, I haven’t really worked all that hard – not by my standards anyway.

I have a close friend who is one of the hardest working people I know. He is very intelligent and well educated and is passionate about saving and changing people’s lives for the better. Not that long ago there were seven years of sheer blood sweat and tears. I have honestly never seen anyone work so hard, 7 days a week, with the lines between dusk and dawn often blurring. The stress to meet someone else’s minimum standards and expectations was painful to watch. I helplessly witnessed him juggling creditors to pay bills,trying to support a young family yet still struggling to just eke by. I felt guilty just watching and knowing what he was going through, wanting to help but at the same time trying to leave him space to travel his journey. After all, in comparison, my life was pretty cushy…five weeks holiday a year- paid – my own home, fantastic circle of friends and social life. I probably worked half as much as he did.

I did feel guilty, for a time.

So what was the difference? He- hard worker and driven – me – thrill seeker and a bit of a slacker. The difference is that I didn’t work hard, on things that weren’t working. All that time I thought I was lazy, cause I didn’t want to work that hard to get what I want. I believed that there either had to be an easier way to achieve what I wanted or something else would be a better idea.

Apparently, unbeknownst to myself I had been following the “signs”. Instead of forcing my way through obstacles and thinking that I was weak, or not good enough to see it through, I gave it up.

Or did I give up?

What I really did was let it go, as I held the belief that there was something preventing me or holding me back for a reason… for something even better.

What if you didn’t have to work hard? What if things just fell in your lap? Why are some people so lucky all the time?

Think about those times in your life when things worked out perfectly. It made you feel happy, lucky, dance about like MC Hammer or perhaps it was a downright miracle that things worked out exactly the way you hoped…or even better than you ever could have planned or imagined. Go back to that time or moment in your life and recall that scenario in your mind, surroundings and head space. Note either the similarities or differences in what was going on in your life and attitude at that time. Put them side by side and compare them. I dare you to see the difference.

Many say that you have to work hard to get what you want. (Who are these people anyway?)  How true is this statement to you? Tell me where those laws are written, I want to see them – I don’t recall it being a commandment. Here’s a burner question for you: would you have any less in your life if you didn’t work as hard as you did?

Picture your life as a beautiful origami crane. This is a plain piece of paper folded into itself with some twists and turns, some tight, some loose, yet when it’s  finished it’s transformed into something beautiful. There’s a pattern to something beautiful.

You have a pattern. Your life has a pattern. Every being has its own pattern.

The way you talk, the way you move, the way you feel. It’s a pattern. When you work with your pattern, it’s likely that things will work out with less effort and more joy. Think about the things that you are proud of, enjoy doing and are good at. That’s your pattern that has been there since you were a rug rat. If those three elements are not part of your life right now, it’s not your pattern. You are working too hard; you are swimming against your own personal current.


“Some of us think holding on makes us stronger – but sometimes it’s letting go”

– Herman Hesse


Do you believe that you have to work hard to get what you want or do you believe in just going with the flow?

Be Careful What You Wish For

12 May

When will I learn?Image

I recently returned home from a nice 4 week holiday full of inspiration and growth. Upon post-travel reflection, I did everything that I wanted to do without even really realizing it. My adventures included taking part in a culinary raw food program, a visit with family in Chicago and running a half marathon with my non-lesbian travel wife.

For the past couple of years, I have been eying a particular program that really resonated with me. I finally decided to take it, but my preference was to have someone else pay for it, since it was kind of pricey.

I was awarded a grant that covered the tuition (five grand people!) I did apply for it, yes, but I wasn’t aware of the opportunity of this fund when I made this mental pact.

Now as far as the half marathon goes, you may think I’m only partially crazy but I didn’t train for it. True story. I ran about 3 times in as many weeks, slowed by a 4 month-old achilles heel injury. I upped my weekly swims and added a little Zumba action in there, but I was hardly in any condition to run 13 miles. And no, I am not naturally athletic. That statement is just plan funny. There was no way to get out of this race, as my friend was flying to Sacramento all the way from our Yukon home to meet me to run this half.

I have no choice. I’m all in. I decided that this was going to have to be a mental race.

I started with imagining (or visualizing or whatever you want to call it) myself feeling good and relaxed and not tired while I was running the race. I imagined all my blood cells healing, and being strengthened by the oxygen I was sending to all my muscles. I imagined that there was some healing energy sent to my heel to mend the broken cells that were causing me pain. I did some yogic breathing every night before I went to bed, and first thing when I woke up. I even did it during in-between my dream state as I rolled over to change sleeping positions. I talked to my body, thanking it for taking care of me and letting it know that I was depending on it to get us through without pain. I actually started to look forward to this race instead of being in denial with dread.

Then, pray tell, why am I surprised that I completed the race without pain or injury and felt the best ever than any race I have ever run? Why I am looking for the pain in my heel to return to the same level of discomfort before the race? Why should the pain resume when I asked it to heal? I don’t recall putting a time stamp on it.

I’m a slow learner who is still learning to trust my instinct and the power of my thoughts and my words, that’s why.

This has happened to me over and over again as I look back upon my life. I truly do get what I want, good and bad.

I better start using my powers for good.

I better start visualizing that house that I want to build on the lot that will become available at a bargain. I better start picturing myself doing what I love, in half the time with twice the pay than I am earning now. I better see myself facilitating those international workshops in incredible destinations. Perhaps I can even picture myself with my hot soul mate at my side as we roam the world sharing and enjoying our abundance with other – or if available I’ll take Hugh Jackman. I’m not that fussy.

Don’t get me wrong. Life wasn’t always sunshine and roses. I have had some dark times in my life, but the same formula applied. I imagined all these horrible things and negative feelings and gut wrenching scenarios. I was so afraid of them happening, that they actually happened. I can honestly say  that when I look back I can see that I created the very things that I feared the most.

I’m done looking back. No regrets. I had to have a little darkness to make the light times seem even brighter. I’m looking forward to seeing what comes true this time. We all can.

Picture it. Plan it. Play it out in your mind, but only the good stuff. You will be amazed how powerful your wishful thinking is, especially when it’s positive.

Be careful what you wish for.




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